Valentines Day - Who gives me love advice:

Who gives men love advice

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6 men spill the beans

Pawan Manglani, 23, Fashion photographer
I wouldn't approach a guy for advice on relationships. I'd go to a female friend. Girls are easier to talk to, and they obviously have a better understanding of female perspective. Guys are too impatient to hear you out, before they can offer any advice.

Ashmit Patel, Actor
I don't approach anyone. No one really knows the intricacies of your relationship, and what your true feelings are. I have a close friend, Sanjeev, who is based in Canada. I consult him occasionally, but not necessarily on relationship issues.

Anshul Chopra, 25, Entrepreneur
When I was single and dating, I approached friends when I was in a spot. Now that I am married, I'm uncomfortable doing that. Relationship problems should stay between a husband and wife.

Shabbir Rawjee, 44, Entrepreneur
I turn to a very close female friend for any sort of personal advice I need. She's stable, mature and understanding, and that leaves me reassured because I know that what she says is well thought out.

Chetan Hansraj, Actor
I have a few close male buddies, and we often end up discussing our relationship problems. No one understands what really goes on in a woman's mind, but at least, I trust these guys to give me their honest opinion.

Mohit Suri, Bollywood Director
Approaching someone for relationship advice is the worst thing a guy can do. It's always backfired for me, so, I prefer working through problems on my own.

POLL: Mid Day asked its readers 'Who do you turn to for relationship advice?'

Here's what they said

Male buddies "33%"

Male colleagues "9%"

Female colleagues "49%"

Parents "9%"

I am my own consultant, says Jerry Pinto Author of Surviving Women (Penguin India)u00a0u00a0

Men can and should act as their own counsel. 'The advantage of being born under the sun sign Gemini, is that I don't need to look far for someone who can give me good advice. When I need advice, I ask myself how I would advise someone else in my situation,' he says.

Through this exercise, 'most of the time the answer leaps out at you, but it's probably not what you want to hear - she won't take your calls because she's not interested in you; she didn't remember your birthday because she doesn't care; she loves someone else. But while he believes that confronting an issue is often easier to do when it treated like someone else's problem, he admits, 'Like most good advice, I must confess, the advice I give myself, often goes unheeded. Still, I have found myself to be a reliable consultant in matters of the heart.