Would you put sugar inside you?

For most of us right now sex couldnt be further from our minds Courtesy the COVID19 lockdown our usual routines have turned upside down A loveless world is a dead world The plague makes us crave more for love and the arms of our loved ones said French philosopher in the 1947 novel La Peste The Plague But a Mumbaibased duo asksmdashwhat if we viewed this time as an opportunity to either reset or refresh our sexual and mental healthFriends Aashish Mehrotra and Tanisha Rao had been talking about wanting to create better awareness around sexual and mental wellbeing for over a year We realised that the pandemic was a good time especially for an online initiative that can easily be accessed by anyone who has a smartphone and reads English says Rao 26And so on June 21 2020 they launched the Sangya Project on Instagram That Rao is a sex educator who has done a course on Comprehensive Sexuality Education for Educators by TARSHI Talking About Reproductive and Sexual Health came in handy Sexuality isnt just about specific sexual acts its also about your ability to understand your body and establish boundaries in personal and professional spaces to protect yourself and learning to respect those that others set for themselves We are social creatures and its a shame we dont talk to people about their sexuality and safety with the same ease that we discuss nutrition and physical fitness By bowing to stigma were making people more vulnerable explains Rao who has been out of the closet as bisexual for 10 yearsMumbaibased friends Tanisha Rao and Aashish Mehrotra felt the lockdown was a good opportunity to spread online awareness around sexual and mental health PicSuresh KarkeraAnd so Sangya Project offers comprehensive sexuality education across ages genders and socioeconomic groups Within just a few months the page has totalled nearly 5000 followers Mehrotra who identifies as a bisexual polyamorous cisgendered male works as a chief video officer for an integrated communications company The 35yearold is also a writer producer director and visual creative lead and so plays a major role in the creativity the page is now synonymous with Tanisha and I pitch ideas to each other and get into a discussion about what should be posted I try to think about the various questions I had in my head when I was in the closet and the only place I could turn to was incognito mode on my parents computer says Mehrotra who came out well into his 30s when he was financially independentThe two like to think of every post as a love letter to someone out there whether its younger versions of themselvesmdashpeople who dont have the right information yetmdashor someone who is just looking for acceptance and validation Were mindful of the fact that a lot of misinformation around sex and sexuality is backed by faults within the academic community as well How can we make grand claims about the full spectrum of human sexual behaviour when so many of the studies used to make those claims only contain data extracted from a small target group in the US or Europe So every paper we read every statistic we notice has to be taken with a pinch of salt says RaoTheir post on flavoured condoms gained the most traction and positive feedback Did you know that it is not safe to use flavoured condoms for penetrative sex They are coated with sugars and substances that should not be introduced to internal genitalia The ingredients can throw off the natural protective pH of the vulvavagina and lead to skin irritation and even yeast infections We received feedback from so many people who said they didnt know this fact Mehrotra quipsThe duo also receives unusual inquiries and confessions from followers They just want to know if they are okay the way they are if they are healthy if they can show their partners more love and support its so moving People think sex education is about teaching people how to have sex but most people just want to hear that theyre not alone and are as normal as everyone else Rao saysThis writers favourite post was captioned Karezza It is an Italian word for caress and is a sexual practice that prioritises touch sensations intimacy and connection over orgasm When asked about their most favourite work online there is disunion Rao clarifies I think my favourites are Misconceptions on Penis Size and Is Sexuality Fluid Nearly all of our posts are based on personal anxieties and fears or ones that loved ones have shared with us so its difficult not to get emotionally attached to the writing Mehrotra adds My favourite is the one on Period Sex Its dehumanising to still think of people as different or inferior because of menstrual blood We shouldnt be talking about being open to period sex its just sex5000No of followers the page has gathered in six monthsFollow sangyaproject Instagram Get in touch thesangyaprojectgmailcom