Considering having an affair!

I am a 30-year old married man and have been increasingly considering an affair with a single colleague because we seem to just get along better than anyone I have ever met. My wife and I have been married for three years but barely have anything to say to each other. It was an arranged marriage because our families know each other, and we have both known that this was a mistake from the start. It’s why we decided not to have children either, because we knew we wouldn’t be able to offer them a supportive family life. I have not said anything to my wife about ending the marriage because I know she needs me for financial support. We also have to be together because of our families, but I can’t stand the idea of living like this for the rest of my life without knowing love or genuine companionship. What should I do?
You should come clean about how you feel, and why you have feelings for this colleague, because adultery is not a solution for what you’re going through. If your marriage is built upon shaky foundations, and neither you nor your wife intend to try and fix that, an affair isn’t going to make you feel better. It will simply complicate what is an already precarious position. It doesn’t make sense for you both to condemn yourselves to a loveless marriage just because you have financial and familial obligations. If this isn’t working, you should both be adult enough to have a conversation about it, and your families need to know too. Speak to a counsellor if you need professional advice, talk about financial support after a divorce if that is the only way out, and then think about another relationship. What you are thinking of right now is simply a means of escape, which is nothing but a temporary solution. 

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