Dr Love with Mid-Day: Bestie, boyfriend don’t get along!

I feel as if I am caught between my boyfriend and my best friend who is also a guy. They are always trying to confront each other in some way that doesn’t make sense, and I feel as if my boyfriend is jealous of the fact that I confide in another guy. I have tried to explain that my friend and I have a platonic relationship and have been friends since school, but he is jealous of something that I can’t explain or resolve. It is getting to a point where I feel as if I may have to break up with him and this hurts because he has absolutely no reason to doubt my friend. I don’t know what to do because I love him and wish this wasn’t happening. Is there any way out?
You can’t convince someone to stop being jealous if he doesn’t understand the nature of your friendship with another guy. His insecurity isn’t your problem, and you shouldn’t have to stop being friends with someone just because your boyfriend doesn’t understand the concept of a platonic relationship. If this is causing you pain, and you feel as if you are being forced to choose between two people, they should both be aware that their actions towards you aren’t coming from love. Your boyfriend isn’t displaying signs of trust, and that is not good for any healthy relationship. Try telling him this once more, point out that trust alone can help you both evolve and build something good together, and end this if he can’t grasp what you’re saying because staying on will only cause you more pain. Your being friends with someone isn’t the problem here; it is your boyfriend’s lack of faith in you that is.

My ex recently showed up at a party and ignored me. I don’t know what I did to make him behave this way. Should I reach out and ask or drop it?
If he is no longer in your life, what are you hoping for?
 
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