Pointing out that this is harming you is the first step. It is disrespectful and she needs to understand that
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I have been in a relationship with a guy for two years. The first year was great, but he seems to have changed over the past eight or nine months. He is bitter, not very pleasant to be around, and has begun pushing a lot of people away. At first, this didn’t bother me much because he was still kind to me, but I get the feeling that he is no longer interested in whether I am part of his life or not. I can leave him, but I believe he is still a person who can be saved from whatever is tormenting him. It’s depression, coupled with serious setbacks in his personal and professional life, which has made him such a difficult person to be around. I want to try, but it is harder to manage and takes a toll on my mental health too. Should I give up, knowing that this isn’t his fault?
Your commitment to saving this is admirable, but you have to acknowledge and accept that you may not be the person tasked with ‘saving’ him. If he has a problem with depression, or anything that affects his mental health, he needs the help of a professional who can provide him with the tools he needs. Given the toll this is taking on you, it may also make sense for you to seek the help of a counsellor too and find out if there is anything you can do to make things easier for him. Ask him to speak to someone and give him time to figure out what his priorities are. If he refuses to get help, you should make a decision on staying or leaving based upon how much you are willing to take on.
My wife constantly teases me and while this was nice at the start, it is starting to feel abusive. How do I get her to stop?
Pointing out that this is harming you is the first step. It is disrespectful and she needs to understand that.
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