He refuses to give me a divorce!

I want to get a divorce from my husband who refuses to grant me one because he believes I am being unreasonable. We have been married for three years and I am convinced this isn’t the person I want to spend the rest of my life with. I have spoken to my family and friends, and they don’t agree either because they think my reasons aren’t valid enough. I can’t explain why I feel this way because I have no specific reason. I used to love my husband before we were married but he turned out to be different from what I expected. If I don’t end this now, I will end it a few years later, but that will only make it harder to find someone I want to be with. They expect me to stay in this marriage and resolve my problems, but I don’t want to compromise on my happiness just because everyone thinks this will work out. What should I do?
You and your husband alone have the right to speak about your marriage or where it is headed. Everyone else may wish you well, and mean well, and have your best interests at heart, but they are still not the ones who have to spend their lives with someone they don’t want to. You don’t need to offer anyone specific reasons for your decision, but you do need to let your husband know that invalidating how you feel is a big sign that things aren’t what they appear to be. He may see this marriage differently, and is entitled to, but that doesn’t give him the right to write off your own perspective. I suggest you think about what your reasons are, why he believes you are being unreasonable, and what you are looking for. You should also speak to professionals about any legal options you have, if you are convinced that this is the only path available to you. If a divorce is only a matter of time, have that conversation soon.

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