He refuses to see a doc about this

This is embarrassing but my husband has started wetting the bed and it is now causing a lot of unforeseen problems in our marriage. He is unable to process what is happening and has begun to lose confidence in himself, which in turn makes him angry all the time and blame me for things I have no control over. I understand that he is feeling vulnerable and is probably confused about this medical condition, but I am not his enemy. He never mentions this to the doctor because he doesn’t think they are connected but I know it is, and I am worried about what this means for our future. What should I do?
Your husband is supposed to acknowledge your concerns and act upon them because that is what a supportive partner must do. If he isn’t mentioning this to the doctor, you should, even if it upsets him, because it often requires an outsider (especially a professional) to step in when one cannot get an important point across. This is your mental health and your husband’s well-being at stake, both of which are interconnected and crucial for your marriage. Insist on speaking to a professional, with or without him, and let him know how that conversation goes.

I’m not happy with my boyfriend because he is committed to his dog who doesn’t like me. I know this sounds frivolous, but I always feel as if I am given second place in his affections. Is this normal?
It’s okay to feel jealousy and you are entitled to feel as if you are not high on your boyfriend’s list of priorities. The onus of taking this seriously is on him though, and you should tell him why it is affecting your relationship. To feel neglected isn’t nice, and he has to do what it takes to acknowledge this and resolve it.
 
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