I don’t want to give up my independence

I am engaged to be married to a guy who has very strong opinions about what we should do after marriage. He wants us to save a certain amount, plan our finances in a way that allows us to get a decent apartment, have a number of children based upon our finances, and do all the right things to make sure we are secure in the future. Part of me appreciates this because it shows that he is someone who plans things and takes our future together seriously. Another part of me finds this difficult to accept because it shows a certain amount of rigidity. What if I don’t agree with his plans, or don’t do the things he wants us to do? He often comes across as someone who would probably end this relationship if it didn’t conform to his ideas. I am torn because I know he’s a great guy, but I don’t want to sacrifice my independence either.
You can ask for more time to get to know him better, because your concerns are all valid. Planning for the future is great, but mutual respect is more important for a relationship because there are two people involved and no one can say that one person’s opinion is more important than the other’s. He may have specific ideas, but that doesn’t imply your way of living or planning for the future is flawed. This is about building a life together, taking the wants and expectations of both partners into account. Tell him why this matters and see how he reacts. You are under no obligation to be with someone you have any doubts about because this is your life.

My girlfriend often calls me stupid when we are out with friends. She says it in a joking manner, but I find it insulting. She says I am too thin-skinned. What should I tell her?
Tell her that being thin-skinned and feeling disrespected are two different things and you are entitled to feeling the way you do.