I want to help her but can’t...

My girlfriend and I broke up after three years of being together. I am heartbroken but also sure there was nothing we could do to fix our relationship. I have heard from common friends that she is miserable and struggling, and I empathise, but I cannot be in touch with her because I won’t be able to deal with her grief. I am already trying hard to cope with my own emotions. I blocked her everywhere, on social media and on the phone, so there is no way for her to contact me. Our friends say I should speak to her because it will help her. They say blocking her is childish and unreasonable, but I don’t think I am doing anything wrong. Is this unjustified? Should I just ignore how I’m feeling and speak with her until she is feeling better?
You are entitled to do anything you like if it helps your mental health. Your friends can hold on to their opinions, but they aren’t the ones coping with this, and you alone are in the best position to decide what’s best for you. Yes, speaking may make things easier for your ex, but it isn’t necessarily solving anything for either of you, given that you both decided to end your relationship. I suggest you take your time to process this, open up lines of communication if and when you feel as if it won’t hurt you, and do whatever it takes to manage until you feel strong enough to move on. Until then, your friends may just have to accept that you and your ex will be dealing with this on your own individual terms.

Also read: I’m 25 and have never dated!