Is he trying to blame it on me?

My husband has been talking about how unsatisfying our sex life is, and it bothers me because he makes it seem as if I am not interested or that the fault is somehow mine alone. I don’t know if he is just using this as an excuse to suggest that there is something wrong with our marriage, because we have been going through a difficult phase for over a year, but I wish he would just be more direct about it. I have asked him to consider marriage counselling, but he says he doesn’t believe in getting an outsider to comment on our personal lives. If he doesn’t want to do anything about it, and only complains, I am beginning to worry about our future together. What can I do about this?
You can tell him exactly what you have just said, because you’re right about the future not looking great. Marriage, like all relationships, requires two people working together towards a common goal. If this isn’t what he is prepared to do, you can’t be the one carrying the weight for you both. If he doesn’t want to speak to a counsellor and isn’t prepared to be more specific about what the problem is, you won’t be able to do much on your own for much longer. Ask him if he wants to save this marriage, because if he does, everything should be on the table.
 
How do I know if someone is genuinely interested in being with me? I met a guy who keeps saying he likes me a lot, but he doesn’t make much of an effort to spend time with me.
Words are cheap; actions are all that count. If he isn’t showing you that he cares, everything he says means little. If you have expectations, you should express them. If he can’t meet them and doesn’t have a good reason, it’s obvious that this isn’t something he takes as seriously as you would like him to.

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