Should I wait for someone better?

I am a 39-year old widow and have recently been in a relationship with a 45-year old man who is divorced. He and I met at a reception for single, older people and we got along very nicely. We have been dating for six months now, and he has asked me to consider marrying him. He says we are both in need of companionship, and I agree, but I wonder if I should be with someone my age given that it may be easier to deal with when we are both senior citizens. I like him a lot, but this isnt like a love affair where we cant do without each other, so I am just being pragmatic and wondering if I should wait until I find someone more suited to being a companion. Is this a good idea or should I accept his proposal? What if I dont meet any decent person later?You are treating this whole thing like a transaction of some kind, which is okay if that works for you, but it sometimes makes sense to look at the emotional aspect as well. This is a lifelong commitment you are considering, which means there is more to think about than just age. There is compatibility, desire, love, respect, and the ability to communicate so that wants and expectations are met. You may find someone who ticks all these boxes, or you may not, because no one can predict the future. What matters for now is how you feel about this person keeping those parameters in mind. If its just a matter of convenience, your relationship will only go so far. Spend some more time with him while keeping these issues in mind. If he cant wait, and feels the need for a commitment sooner, you will have your answer and be free to move on. Either way, this isnt something that can be treated in a clinical manner because we are discussing two people planning to live together for the rest of their lives. The inbox is now open to take your most carnal and amorous queries. Send your questions on email to lovedoc@mid-day.com