We have issues but can’t part...

My boyfriend and I have serious issues but can’t end our relationship because we have the same tastes when it comes to things we like. This sounds like a frivolous reason to stay together, but I have found that being with someone who doesn’t share your interests can make a relationship difficult to manage. We fight a lot and just manage to find a way of maintaining the status quo, but I sometimes worry if this is enough to sustain us as we get older. If we marry and end up like two bitter people, I will regret not making changes while I could. I am confused about what to do. Should I break up and take the risk of finding someone else?
All relationships come with their own challenges, and there is no way for anyone to predict what the future holds when it comes to love fading away and being replaced by bitterness. What matters is the foundation upon which any relationship is built, because that equips you both to handle any issues or hurdles that crop up along the way. You believe having similar tastes to be the biggest reason why you want to stay with this person. What about love, or companionship, and a desire to be with him? If these things are not high on your list of priorities, and you haven’t asked him about why he is choosing to be with you either, that may be a good place to start. Ask yourself difficult questions, answer as honestly as possible, and think about whether your feelings are enough to sustain a future with your partner. If it feels as if they may not last very long, you should make some difficult decisions about why you are choosing this, what you intend to get out of it, and what you think the future holds for both of you. Try involving him in these conversations too, because his perspective can also help you both find a measure of clarity that appears to be missing.

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