Will he go back to his ex-wife?

I have been dating a guy who was married for three years and got divorced a year ago. He is around 45 and I am two years younger. He has a son from this previous marriage and spends most weekends with him, which I am fine with because I understand that this is important for them both. A week or two ago, however, I found out that he had met his ex-wife for dinner and was not with his son. I saw a picture of them on Facebook and he was tagged in it. I asked him about it, and he said the only reason he didn’t tell me anything was because he was worried, I would take it the wrong way. He also admitted that he has been speaking to his ex-wife a lot more and that they are trying to be friends. He pointed out that he was not interested in getting back with her and wanted me to be okay with it. I don’t know how to deal with this because part of me feels as if he will break up with me and go back to her. What should I do?
He has given you an explanation for what he is trying to do. The mature thing is to try and understand why he wants this to happen. He and his ex-wife share parenting duties. When a child is involved, the way parents behave around each other can have a profound impact on mental health as well as behaviour. It’s possible that he wants to have a better relationship with his ex because of what this means to their child. If you are worried about him leaving you, ask yourself some tough questions about your own relationship, where things stand between you two, and what your own plans are. At the end of the day, you are both adults making personal choices. To assume he will leave you, without evaluating where things stand, is to jump to conclusions that cause more harm than good.

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