Couples in the West are fighting infidelity by letting their partners check their Facebook accounts. Is logging into your spouse's email or Twitter account the best way to ensure transparency? FYI finds out
Couples in the West are fighting infidelity by letting their partners check their Facebook accounts. Is logging into your spouse's email or Twitter account the best way to ensure transparency? FYI finds out
Most of us have been through this. That untrusting look on a partner's face when he/she asks for your mail or Facebook password, or expects it in unspoken askance after giving out one's own, in a fit of faith. You wonder what's next: a fight, loss of trust or blackmail, since you can't possibly have him/her track back your past. The skeletons are scary. But so is the situation at hand.
Couples in the West, however, are increasingly giving in to this no-fuss, drama-free way of ensuring transparency with their partners.u00a0 They don't have the time to follow their spouse on foot, so a simple password exchange does the job at a click. But does it, really? Do lovers make too much of a big deal out of sharing private details? Is social networking a good yardstick to measure deeply personal feelings and involvements?
The questions are many, as you harrow your honey. 
What Wiki writes
WikiAnswers.com has a suggestion that's not a bad idea at all:
>>No, you are not her and she is not you. If someone sent an e-mail SPECIFICALLY to you, then you alone should be opening that e-mail. It's not very nice if the sender learns that someone else, other than you, is reading his/her mail to you.
>>If you and your wife receive and send e-mails as a couple, then setup an e-mail account for the two of you to share. All other e-mails meant to be sent to each of you individually should be received in your own individual e-mail account.
It's immature, scoff the married
Raksha Bharadia, Author of Chicken Soup for the Indian Soul series
A marriage is as much a case of faith as it is of letting the other have their space; knowing fully well that like me, my spouse, too, will have skeletons. Allowing those is the only way a relationship can work. Knowing, and yet not probing. Isn't it kiddish to believe and expect that two people can bare and bear every single thing about themselves and continue to love each other? I wonder when we'll grow up!
Shilpi Sinha, Senior HR professional
I don't think such an indulgence is in any way healthy. It may open a can of worms. But I'm thinking like a 38 year-old; it might mean a lot to younger couples in love.
Passwords are a tool to re-explore and re-ignite says shrink
Bhavna Burmi, Psychologist at Escorts Hospital
"While many couples use this exchange negatively, it can have a significant positive impact, too. For instance, you may chance upon something that shows how your partner loves adventure sports, an interest you never knew he harboured. It can bring back the spice in your love life. Look out for the bright details, rather than go digging for murky details."
Friends feel awkward; it's a firvolous task
Ajay Jain Networking expert
The trend is taking on in India, too. He believes it is a good gesture between two people, but the important thing is not to get under each other's skin. "Transparency depends on what kind of an engagement a person has, on social media. If it is absolutely frivolous, sharing passwords is of no use. Also, if you are Tweeting or sending out messages or chatting from your partner's account, his/her friends should be informed of this. Otherwise, it can get really awkward."
The Curious lover's guide
>>Fabricate a friend's case and stir up a conversation to see your partner's views on password
sharing.
>>If they sound forthcoming, good for you. If they're totally against it, never tread that
way again.
>>If you do land into his/her social networking account, don't let scepticism and suspicion get the better of you. If something seems suspicious, discuss it before arriving at conclusions.
>>Remember, everyone has a past. Digging it up won't take your relationship anywhere. Let sleeping stories lie; don't saw sawdust.
>>Don't nose around all the time. Breathing space is important, and your lover has the right to maintain close friendships with well wishers who came around before you.
>>While reading conversations and arguments between him/her and a past lover, try and analyse where they went wrong to avoid making the same mistake.
>>The very fact that he/she has shared the password should make your trust go up.
Cheat code
Cheating on your partner and still want to share password? Play it smart
>>Keep social networking purely social, not
personal.
>>Let your other interests know it's a danger zone so that no personal communication is exchanged.
>>Be platonic in general. He/she will never find out about your favourtism!
Forget the password
Social networking passwords are really overhyped. Being intrusive isn't being intelligent. Here are reasons why you shouldn't give a damn
>>It takes away all surprise and mystery from life together. How boring is that!
>>Privacy is vital for any long-lasting, mature relationship.
>>No matter how disturbing, the past is gone.
>>Build professional connections instead.u00a0
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