I’m 27 and my boyfriend is a year younger to me. We’ve been together for a year. He has stopped saying, “I love you” to me. He says he doesn’t have to say something he already feels for me, but I need the reassurance. I often feel betrayed in some ways. Am I asking for too much?
May be your guy is not too expressive, so does not feel the need to do so. This does not mean that his love for you has lessened. You two are opposites when it comes to being expressive. Understand that he just doesn’t say it as much, but let him know that it well help you feel better to be reminded that he loves you. Try saying “I love you” to him first and he is sure to say it back.
I’m four months pregnant with my first child and I’m overjoyed about it. I’m the first of all my friends to have a baby and while they are happy for me, my best buddy, who I’d always planned to share this with, just isn’t bothered. I wanted her to be part of my joy, but now I’m not sure because she does not seem to be sharing my happiness. I feel so rejected by her: should I tell her I find her behaviour really out of character and hurtful?
Your pal perhaps thinks that the baby might leave you with little time for her. Or perhaps she is not as expressive as you want her to be. Or may be she is just being concerned about you and not going overboard like the way you are doing. Some people love to be dramatic, while the others do not. Your buddy belongs to the latter group. Instead of worrying over the reaction of your pal and worrying, ask her the reason for her behaviour to put your fears to rest.
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