I am in love with a man who is caught in an unhappy marriage. I really can't seem to stop myself from seeing him. He's planning to divorce his wife and wants to make the move as painless as possible for his young daughter. I sometimes feel guilty and sometimes feel why should I even harbour such thoughts. There was trouble in his marriage even before I came on his scene. So it is not that I am responsible for the break up of his marriage. He says he kept it going for the sake of his young daughter. I feel he is the man for me even though my family members are against the idea. They feel his wife and daughter will always create problems for me. But this guy makes me feel good and he, too, wants to be with me. I truly believe he isn't happy in his marriage and wants to initiate the divorce proceedings.
Before you plan marriage and a future with him, let the divorce come through. Let all the paperwork be done to avoid any fingers being pointed at you. Once he is single and free, you can plan to move in with him. You are going by what he is telling you so hope he is honest and forthright with you. Your family's fears are justified as they may not know the exact story. For them, you are seeking a married man as a life partner. As he is a father too, there is going to be constant interaction with the daughter. He has to fulfill his responsibilities as a father. So be prepared to deal with all this before you take the plunge. If you feel the man is genuine, take your parents into confidence, make them understand your point of view. It will be tough, but you will have to for a happy and secure future.
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