'I am married, but in love with another guy...'

Dear Diana,
I have been married for two years. Things are going fine and my husband is loving and caring, but I have developed feelings for another guy. I don’t know why, but I can’t get this man out of my head. He is single. I met him at my husband’s friend’s birthday party of one of my hubby’s friends. As he and I were not drinking, we were sitting away from the rest. We got talking about common friends, our lives and exchanged numbers. I was not all surprised when he sent me a SMS three days later. He said he needed to tell me something. I was waiting for him to SMS or call. We started talking and spoke for three hours at a stretch. I really don’t understand what is happening to me. I have been meeting him on the sly. I am aware that I am wrecking my marriage and do not know what my husband will say when he finds out. I am getting frustrated. I have tried to get rid of these feelings, but I can’t. I have fallen in love with him.
— Raima

Illustrations/Uday Mohite
Illustrations/Uday Mohite

Dear Raima,
This guy is your husband’s friend’s pal. So when the concerned parties find out, it will be hell. Get ready to face the heat and the consequences. This man is single, but you are not. Remember, you are indulging in an extramarital affair. You may have been drawn towards him due to his charm and personality, but do you want to part ways from your husband for this man? Are you ready to tell your husband about your affair? You will have to choose between the two men. Your hubby has no clue, so before he finds out what is going on behind his back, you need to tell him and accordingly decide your future course of action.

Diana will solve it!
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  • joey26-Sep-2015

    Diana,Would your advice be the same if it would have been man who was attracted to his wifes friend.

  • Sachin Sawant19-Oct-2015

    Raima telling her husband about the situation may go in wrong direction. And advising someone who is or thinks they are in love with someone else won't help at all overcoming their feelings. If Riama can't overcome this guy then she need to decide what she wants. Best thing she could do is to talk to this guy about leaving her husband and getting married to him. I know this won't be the best step too, but Raima may come to know the true intention of this guy and hopefully would be best for her.

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