'I can't stop thinking about him...'

Dear Diana,
I am in an unhappy marriage. My husband and I lead our own lives though we stay in the same house. Neither of us have taken steps to separate. We have two teenaged children. Recently, one of my married friends sat next to me and our legs were touching. He is an amazing guy and we get along well. I think about him all the time and feel attracted to him. Am I in love again?
— Geetika

Illustration/Amit Bandre
Illustration/Amit Bandre 

Dear Geetika,
First of all you are married and so is he. So anything that you and he plan means you are indulging in an extramarital affair. So before you take the plunge remember what you are getting into and the repercussions it will have. Though you are in a loveless marriage, you may be sticking around for the sake of the kids instead of going through a divorce. If you are attracted to this guy decide what you want to do with your life and act accordingly.

Dear Diana,
My fiancé and I are due to marry in December. We've been engaged for 18 months and things were fine till about two months ago. I was offered my dream job which is three hours away from my home. Now, since I've been away, I've realised I'm no longer in love with my fiancé. I like her, but I'm not in love with her. To make matters worse, I've met a girl that I work with who I have fallen head over heels for. She is also interested in me.
— Wasim

Dear Wasim,
As they say 'out of sight, out of mind'. It is clear that you were not exactly in love with this girl. You were not serious about the relationship else it would have been for keeps. You come across another girl and fall for her hook line and sinker. It is better that you call off the marriage. Before that get your muddled mind cleared. Think about what you want in a life partner.

Diana will solve it!
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