I have fallen for my sister’s college friend. She often comes home to study with her as they are classmates. I am 19 while my sister is 22. Her friend is 21 years old. My sister is close to her, so I do not know what to do. I am also afraid to tell her as I do not know how she will react. Ever since our mother passed away, she has been mothering me though my sister is only a few years older to me. Most of the time, she is lecturing me about what to do and what not to do. Whenever her pal comes home, I keep coming into her room on some pretext or the other. I’m finding it difficult to let my sister and her friend know what I feel. What do I do? Should I tell her pal first or tell my sister about my feelings?
Are you in love with her or are you infatuated by her? At your age it is common to get infatuated by a movie star, a teacher or an elder person or a sibling’s friend as in your case. Right now, just strike a friendship with her. This should not be difficult as she is your sister’s friend. There is no need to tell your sister anything at this stage. Just get talking to her friend. There are many common topics to talk about — from your studies to your sister. You two are still young and it is better to concentrate on your studies for now. There is no need to make the girl aware of your feelings because she will tell your sister. So do not indulge in anything that can ruin the friendship between the two. Your sis may have been talking to her about you. At the same time, be considerate towards your sister, she is older to you. She knows what is right and wrong — so she is guiding you like your mom would have.
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