'I'm in love with two guys at my workplace...'
I'm 23 and working with an international BPO. I'm fond of two guys, but I'm confused between the two of them. One of them is a flirt and the other is a serious type. Through common pals I known that the two like me, but I can't make up my mind who to be with. Sometimes I feel I should go around with both of them.
You can't be going around with the two because one day, they will know and then it will get difficult for you. You will then end up losing both of them. You have to decide with whom you are more comfortable with. Determine what you want in a partner and what qualities you are looking for in a relationship. Ask yourself who you gel with. Also, it appears that you are unsure who you want to be with. So clear your muddled mind first before figuring out who is a better guy for you.
I have been in a relationship for over a year, but in the past few weeks I made a mistake of not being there for my girl when she needed me. So she is now avoiding me. I was being stupid and selfish at that time. I have now realised my mistake and I really need to get back with her. I have apologised to her many times and I know she is heart broken because of me. I really love her and I can't let her go. How do I save this relationship?
May be you were genuinely too tied up with things and did not have the time to be with her, but what stopped you from telling her so? You had your reasons and whatever they were, if you had communicated it to her, things would not have been in a mess. It is obvious that she is angry and hurt with your behaviour. Make amends and apologise to her — make her realise that what you did was wrong and will not do so in the future.
Diana will solve it!
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