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Dear Diana,
I am a SYJC student at a reputed college. I am one of the better students in my class and usually do well. I am also good at sports. And I am quite the popular person in my college with a big friend circle. A lot of girls want to date me, but my problem is that I love this cute 27-year-old French teacher who I think is the love of my life. I know it is not right to lust after my teacher, but I cannot help myself. Though this hasn't affected my studies in any way, a close friend I spoke to, advised me to stop pursuing her. Is what I am doing wrong? Will these feelings of love pass? Please advise.
Pratham
Dear Pratham,
You ask, 'Is it wrong to be in love with your teacher?' Well I don't know about right or wrong, but it isn't very original. I think every boy has a secret crush on some teacher at some point of his life. But falling in love with your teacher and thinking of pursuing her is a little excessive. What makes you think she'd be interested in a student? For all you know she's happily married or in a relationship and I assure you she will not be flattered to find out that one of her students lusts for her. This will never happen, so what's the point of even pursuing it? You'd only be wasting your time. It's just a teenage crush. It may not seem like it now but you will get over her. You have to make a concious effort to get over her. Since you are already popular and have a big friend circle, that should not be difficult. Spend time with girls your age. I am glad to hear this hasn't affected your studies. You sound level-headed. You should be able to see that this is a complete waste of your time.
I've got a boss from hell!
Dear Diana,
My boss makes my life a living hell. He gives me assignments, then interferes in everything I do and doesn't allow me to come into my own. Over time, things that came under my area of responsibility, were given to people who didn't know head nor tail of what they were doing. Truth be told, they still don't. I've worked in my organisation for around two years now and these freshers refuse to listen to good reason. How do I prove my worth?
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Chintan
Dear Chintan,
It's very difficult for us to see what we do wrong. Maybe your boss is behaving this way with you because he/she is unhappy with your work. Have a chat with your boss. Or send him an email. Ask him if you are doing something wrong and that you are willing to work at it. Tell him that you want more responsibility. Besides that, for a few months, make your work your priority. Put in extra hours and try to learn more about your work and attempt to better yourself. If your boss stilldoesn't approve, he/she doesn't deserve you. Start job hunting.
He doesn't earn enough...
Dear Diana,
I am a 22-year-old girl in love with a guy for the past four years. But the problem is, he is related to us and is not earning enough nor does he own a house. My family members say that since I am educated and also doing well financially and he is not well settled.They are all against our relationship as they feel that he is not the right person for me. But I feel that he is. What should I do?
Seema
Dear Seema,
Ideally, a relationship should be about compatibility, not about money and social status. But we don't live in an ideal world, and much as I hate to admit it, these things do matter. You have to be practical. The guy does not earn enough, and doesn't even have a house to live in. I am not saying leave him for that. But be prepared for life ahead. It's going to be difficult. Picture your marriage two years down the line, even if it doesn't matter to you, it might hurt his ego that his wife is doing betterthan he is. And what if you decide to take a break and have kids? Why don't you wait for a few years and let him improve his financial status. Don't take a decision now. Go ahead only when you are sure.
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