'My friend has fallen for my guy...'
I am 26 and recently fought with my boyfriend. We were together for over a year. I had an inkling that there was someone else on his scene. One of my girl pals was fond of him. He knew she liked him, so just let himself go. Initially, I thought it was just harmless flirting, but I did not know things would go so far. They were having an affair behind my back. I created a scene, but they claimed they were just friends. I then stopped talking to my guy. At the same time, I feel I don't really know whether I'm doing the right thing by avoiding him. I feel I am giving them a chance to spend even more time together. Should have I stopped him in the initial stages? I have lost not only my guy, but my friend as well. At the same time, I want him back, but then I feel he cheated on me. My pal also took my guy away from me. How do I get out of the mess?
As you have lost your guy as well as your buddy, you feel your life is a big mess. They have been having an affair behind your back. You did suspect that something was amiss, but did not think how far things would go. What stopped you from not letting your guy being extra friendly with your pal? In a way, you let him go astray. Your guy and your pal have made your life miserable and you still want to forgive them! Get going with your life and let them be. Creating a scene may have made you feel better, but it will lead to bitterness. At the end, you are the fool as you were unaware what was happening behind your back. It will be difficult for you, but you must move on and next time when you are in a relationship, be wary. As for your friend, if she was really a close pal, she would not have snatched your guy away from you.
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