'My girlfriend's ex-flame has been calling her...'

Oct 09, 2015, 06:00 IST | Dear Diana

Dear Diana,
I’ve been with this girl for a year, but I can now sense that something is wrong. It is not that I am insecure, but her behaviour towards me has changed. When I am around, she does not want to talk on her cell phone or check her messages. It was not the case earlier. The other day, I saw her phone ringing and it was her ex. She knew I had seen her phone, but she preferred to keep quiet about it. I know for sure that he is back in her life. A common friend has been filling me in with details how she has hooked up with her former flame again. I wonder why she cannot tell me clearly what is on her mind. At the same time, she says that we should plan a future together. Why is she playing this game with me? Should I believe what the common friend is telling me about her ex-flame?
— Ashutosh

Dear diana
Illustration/ Uday Mohite

Dear Ashutosh,
Do not fall a prey to what the common pal is telling you, the person may have an agenda. You feel something is amiss, but what has stopped you from asking her what is wrong? You are assuming there is a problem as you saw her ex-flame’s name flash on her cell phone. The guy might just be haunting/stalking her again. He might be making things unpleasant for her and chances are that she does not know how to handle it. So, instead of getting paranoid, you need to sit down and have a chat with her. She may be going through a crisis while you might just be creating a problem where there isn’t. What you need is an explanation about what’s going on in her mind. At the same time, if what your pal is telling you is true, she needs to tell you the truth. Right now you are jumping to conclusions and doubting her. Tell her exactly how you feel. She certainly owes you an explanation for her changed behaviour.

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