'My guy does not want to meet me...'

Feb 25, 2015, 06:00 IST | Dear Diana

Dear Diana,
I have been with my guy for two years. Our families know about our affair. He even took me for a family wedding three months ago and introduced me to his extended family members. Recently, however, he has started behaving odd with me. He has been playing the avoidance game. When I asked him what is wrong he said his parents had told him to steer clear from me. They feel I am making him spend too much money and that he is wasting his money on me. I was shocked as it is not that I am demanding too much from him. He keeps buying gifts and always shows it to his family members first and then gives it to me. Not that I am telling him to buy it. I have been taken aback by his sudden change in stance. I am sure there is more to it. He has been ignoring my phone calls and now suddenly he is too busy to even meet me.
— Manasvi

Illustration/Amit Bandre
Illustration/Amit Bandre 

Dear Manasvi,
Your guy's sudden change in behaviour is highly intriguing. I am sure there is more to it. He definitely owes you an explanation about the turnaround in his stance. He is coming up with an excuse to just keep you off him. Tell him that you need to talk to him and explain why he is behaving in such an odd manner. If you have interacted with his family members and know one of them well, speak to them as well. In the meanwhile, find out from common friends about the sudden decision to switch off from you. If he really cared for you, he would have told you clearly what was going on in his mind. The fact that he is not telling the truth is clear that it is his way of telling you it's over. May be parental pressures is making him behave in such a manner. This is his way of telling you it is all over and that you have to move on.

Diana will solve it!
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