Dear Diana,
I have been married for 10 years. My wife has suspicious nature. She knows I am close to a woman at my work place. I like her, but have not crossed the line with her. For me, she is an asset in the office whom I turn to for all my business decisions. Last week, completely out of the blue, my wife told me I should be going out with this office colleague. She even went to the extent of telling me that I should sleep with her. She was insistent I do it. She even got upset when I said I didn't want to and carried on trying to convince me. She knows that there was a point in our relationship when she suspected that something is brewing between her and me. But at the same time, she also knows I would never cheat on her. Can you help with this confusing situation? Why is my wife telling me to go out with her. It is a shocking demand. I am sure there are some ulterior motives lined up in her scheming mind.
— Arvind

Illustration/Amit Bandre
Illustration/Amit Bandre 

Dear Arvind,
Your wife's mind seems to be working overtime. She sure has a plan in place to trap you. So do not put yourself in any such situation. You have told her about your female office colleague. You say you have not crossed the line with her,so there is no need to worry for her. Yet she is adamant that you sleep around with her. This is a rather strange request. Do not go astray as then she might say that you are indulging in an extra-marital affair. Perhaps someone is insinuating her against you and this is a plan to ensnare you. You need to tell your wife there is no way you are going to fall prey to her demands and her behaviour is not only shocking, but rather atrocious. You certainly need to knock sense into her head.