I caught my wife in the arms of another man last week. I spotted them just before they were getting into the car. I knew something was amiss from her behaviour in the last few months, so I had been following her whenever it was possible. When she suddenly decided to leave home around 11 pm to wish a friend a happy birthday at midnight, I knew she was up to something. I called up her pal casually to enquire. As expected, she was not at her friend's house. I had heard her mention a coffee place while talking on the cell phone. I zoomed off and waited for a while. When the clock struck 12, I saw her exit the place along with a guy. She embraced him and they left together in a car. I went back home and she reached home only around 2 am. She had later visited her friend who was bringing in her birthday. I have not told her anything. How should I go about this situation?
You do not know who this guy is. If you confront her, chances are that she will deny it. When you caught them red-handed, you could have reacted at that time. But you had your reasons as you did not want to create a scene. Your wife is cheating on you and, at the same time, behaving as if nothing is wrong. Even if you warn her, she will continue seeing this guy behind your back. You need to tell her that she needs to choose. She is causing you a lot of misery and heartache. There is no point suffering in silence. Tell her you saw her the other night and that she needs to get packing. If you still care for her and want to forgive her, it is your call. But the trust will be broken forever as you will always doubt her.
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