I am 31 and my marriage was arranged by my parents with a 26-year-old girl. We got married two months ago. While talking to me last week, she suddenly started crying. Initially, she just said that she was missing her family. However later she confessed that she has a boyfriend whom she left due to family pressures. Since this confession of hers, I haven't been at ease. She also told me that she is still in touch with him. Should I let her go?
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She has made an honest confession, but it has come a bit too late. Out of fear, she may have married you, but now she is ruining your life as well as hers besides that of her guy. If she still pines for him, there is no point in keeping your marriage going. Tell her that it is her decision and if she wants to move out, it is her choice. Before that she will have to speak up and let your family as well as hers know what is going on. It is going to be difficult for you, but it is better this way as this woman will continue with her extra-marital affair otherwise.
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