My wife is 30 and I’m 31. We have a four-year-old daughter. We were doing fine in our small world till my wife became part of an NGO. I noticed a change in my wife’s behaviour. She has begun to insist that she is always right even when she’s wrong. All of a sudden, she has developed this ego and our daughter too is bearing the brunt. I have been trying to understand what is driving her to do all this. She says it is because of the women she has met at the NGO who keep asserting their rights.
Looks like her new bunch of friends are influencing her a lot. Your wife seem to be on an overdrive and keen to have her say in everything. From the looks of it all the talk about rights, emancipation have gone to her head. Being assertive is one thing, but being demanding and unreasonable is another. Your wife is hellbent on behaving like the latter. You need to sit down and talk to her. She needs to her know that her behaviour is becoming a source of discomfort for all, especially your young daughter.
My girlfriend is a nice person, but untidy. Her things are always in a mess unlike me. I suffer from obsessive-compulsive disorder. I don’t know whether we have a future together with the way things are going. I want to break up, but don’t have the courage to break her heart.
What have you done to make her life free of clutter? Explain to her how life will be less complicated when there is order in life. Things can be easily found when kept in place neat and tidy. It also saves time and unneeded heartburn. It is up to you to make her a tidy person, especially if you suffer from OCD. Give it a shot before you decide to go your separate way.
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