“Meera, you have to start thinking about your marriage now,” is a statement that alone can lead me into depression. I dread the day my parents will bring up the subject, though I know it’s not too far away. Especially, given that a lot of my friends are close to tying the knot. Most of the couples I know back home in Dehradun have had the ‘arranged’ style of shaadi. The singles meet once or twice with the whole jing-bang and khandaan around, to make up their mind on marriage. And it’s done — before anyone can even blink.
Thank God for beautiful mercies. Mumbai defines everything differently! In this colourful and free-thinking city, I have discovered that relationships have many shades. But they are not the be all and end all of life. Yes, of course, you can date but that’s not too uncommon in Dehradun. You can be whoever you want with your choice of understanding. But you know what’s even cooler? It’s fine if you don’t get married. In fact, I have suddenly come across so many wonderful individuals who are beyond the conventional age of marriage set by our awesome society, and yet extremely content with their happening lives. Thankfully, no one is judging them or passing shrewd taunts.
Through my social interactions here, I have met so many cool people who are exploring different phases in their relationships. Guys and gals meet without any pressures and just go with the flow. It’s just the way everyone does it here. If it works, they stay together; if it doesn’t, they move on. It’s okay to have flings and there are no hard feelings most of the time. Isn’t that amazing and liberating?
For me, I don’t even know if I want to get married. Not arranged or ‘love’, as they call it. Isn’t it too soon to think about marriage? I haven’t even lived life on my own terms yet. There are so many miles for me to walk, before I walk down the aisle; so many things to achieve, and so much in life to explore. Nope, I am not implying that life is over after marriage, but I want to discover myself and satisfy my individuality before I settle down with one guy. Right now my mind revolves around fashion, my passion, and my kabhi khushi kabhi gham wala internship. And while I am at it, who says I can’t have some fun?
Remember Sumer? My dude neighbour? I think I have the hots for him, but I don’t know if there is something between us. I genuinely don’t know if we are seeing each other or are in a ‘relationship’. I do not have the slightest clue if our sizzling chemistry will last or fizzle out. But, I’m completely fine to not know where the both of us are headed. If it’s meant to be, it will be.
So, I am going to go with the flow. And I am not going to pause and wonder if it’s right or wrong, but will just live like the city I am growing to love. All I know is that my three months here are not just going to be about work and fashion. Shouldn’t there be something more to chronicle as well?
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