'How can I rekindle the passion in our marriage?'

Q. We have been married for 10 years, with three kids. I am 36 years old and my wife is 35. Lately, my wife says she has no romantic feelings for me. She says that, when I touch her, she feels nothing because her body is so used to me. How can I re-kindle romantic or sexual feelings in her?
A. Keeping romance or sexual excitement alive over a period of time is never easy, simply because, as your wife says, people in a relationship tend to get used each other. The way to change that is to surprise her with new sides of your personality and new moves in the bedroom. Surprise her with flowers, try a sexual position you have never attempted before (finding inspiration online shouldn't be a problem) and get her to see you in a new light, with and without your clothes on. If that doesn't work, speaking to a professional sexologist should help.

Q. Is there anything I can do to convince my girlfriend not to speak to too many of her male colleagues at work? I don't have a problem with it, but I don't want them to think she's a flirt. Men get the wrong idea when a woman is too friendly, and my girlfriend doesn't see that despite my trying to explain it to her a number of times.
A. Actually, you do have a problem with her speaking to people despite your saying you don't. And as for men who think women are flirts if they are friendly, you're exactly the kind of man who would think that because your head is stuck in the 1900s. Your girlfriend can speak to anyone she likes, and as many men as she chooses to, because that is her prerogative. If you have a problem with that, end this relationship and go find a Khap Panchayat you can spend time with instead. A lot of men can be delusional about how women behave, and you're obviously one of them.