'I haven't told her I'm in love with someone else'

When can I tell my girlfriend that I am in love with someone else? I don't want her to create a scene.
I think she has a right to create a scene if you are in love with someone else and haven't done the courtesy of informing her yet. You are doing her as well as yourself a disservice. Grow up and speak to her at once.

When I was in Class 10, I fell in love with a girl but whenever I proposed to her, she rejected me. Eventually, I was so in love with her that I couldn't concentrate on my studies. I tried ignoring her and tried stopping all contact with her in Class 11. I am now in Class 12, and my friends want me to try my luck again. I want to concentrate on my studies, but I want her too. She was once a good friend of mine, but I have not contacted her for over a year. Please help me. I love her so much. Should I try my luck again after a year? If so, please tell me how?
- Omkar J
I'm not sure what your friends mean by asking you to "try your luck again". This isn't a lottery. It's a human being who has informed you quite clearly of her lack of interest in you and your feelings. If you can't concentrate on your studies, she is hardly to be blamed. You have already lost a friend by stopping all contact with her. The only way you can move forward is to accept her in your life as a friend, because that's the sensible thing to do, and focus on more important things that require your attention at the moment. If, at some point over the next couple of years, she feels as if you can both be more than friends, she will inform you. She is aware of your feelings and has made her decision. To continue down this road is childish, and possibly detrimental to more important things that may lie in your future. Choose wisely.

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