'I am insecure about my girlfriend's guy friend'

There is a guy who happens to be a close friend of my girlfriend. He's a nice guy, but she relies on him way too much for my liking. She doesn't take any major decision without consulting with him, doesn't go anywhere without telling him first and spends as much time chatting with him as she does with me. This bothers me more than it should, because I know they have a strictly platonic relationship. She is not attracted to him in any way and is simply close to him because they have been childhood friends. My big worry is that, if he ever finds out that I am insecure about him, he could ask her to end this relationship and she would probably listen to him too. How do I go about dealing with this without her finding out?
If your girlfriend trusts another man who happens to be a close friend of hers, why are you threatened? If she were in love with him, she would be with him, not you. If she turns to him for advice, does this in any way diminish the importance she gives you in her life? This is your ego talking. Why do you feel the need for her to rely on you for advice anyway? Would it help if the person she listened to were female? You need to ask yourself why you have a problem here, and recognise that your girlfriend is perfectly entitled to turn to anyone for help or advice. This is her friend and speaking to him is her prerogative. You know theirs is a platonic relationship, but it still bothers you. To be jealous simply because he happens to be male is ridiculous. And if he wants her to end this relationship with you, it's up to her to listen or disregard his advice. I suggest you spend some time with him instead, simply because he is an important part of her life. Don't let jealousy ruin what you have with your girlfriend.

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