'Who do I pick between my mother and wife?'

I was married in Hyderabad last year. It was an arranged marriage and my wife and I stayed together until earlier this year. We used to get into petty arguments constantly, and she left eventually, saying she couldn't live with my mother. I can't abandon my mother, but I love my wife a lot and can't leave her either. Her brother is demanding Rs 25 lakh. What should I do? - Deepak S

Getting someone you don't know at all to settle down in a place you are familiar with is never easy. It's hard to under-estimate just how difficult life is for a woman forced to uproot herself from everyone and everything she knows and move to a new place with someone she doesn't know at all. I think you should try and see things from her perspective and give her time to get used to the idea. Petty arguments are perfectly normal because it takes time for two people to get to know each other. Understanding is built over time, and based on open, honest communication. Speak to her, but give her time and space to understand what she means to you. Maybe you can both arrive at a compromise of sorts that makes it possible for you to live with your mother as well as your wife. As for her brother demanding money, I'm not sure what you mean by that. What does he want the money for? Does he want you to pay him because his sister is married to you? I think you should speak to a professional about the legal implications here, or speak to your in-laws about his demands.

Is it okay for two people who are in love to not have sex if one of them is not comfortable with the idea yet?

Sex is about mutual consent. It's about two people wanting to do it so, yes, it's perfectly okay to wait until both people in the relationship feel that they are ready to go ahead with it.