'I don't want to get married yet; I want to study'

31 March,2017 06:12 AM IST |   |  Dr Love

'I would like to study further but my parents want me to marry instead. What if my future husband forbids me from studying? Is there anything I can do to convince my parents?'


I would like to study further but my parents want me to marry instead. What if my future husband forbids me from studying? Is there anything I can do to convince my parents?

If you are an adult, you are allowed to marry anyone you choose to, whenever you feel like it. If making your parents happy is more important than your own happiness, the least you can do is tell them to consider your wishes before making any decision. Why do they not understand how important an education is?

I am a 56-year-old and my family life is disturbing. My wife does not satisfy me in any way, which is why we have mutually agreed to consider a live-in relationship. What is the way to go about this? We have been married for 22 years but I am still unhappy. - Uddhav R

I'm not sure I understand your question. Are you saying you want to dissolve your marriage and get into a live-in relationship with your wife because that may be less stressful? Or, are you implying that you intend to dissolve the marriage and get into a live-in relationship with another woman? Either way, there is no 'process'. There are legal implications to dissolving a marriage and entering another relationship, but you haven't mentioned whether or not there is someone you want to get into a relationship with. I also find it strange that you blame your wife for not satisfying you when one can easily assume that you haven't satisfied her either. Have you both had a conversation about this? Have you considered speaking to a therapist or a sex counsellor? Is the satisfaction you crave more than just physical? 22 years is a long time to be with someone and not figure out how to arrive at a certain kind of happiness. I suggest you have an open discussion with your wife. At this point, you have nothing to lose by telling each other what you need.

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