'Long things' are the bane of my love life...

I've got a small one and my girlfriend of four years keeps complaining. Girth-wise, she has no complaints...

'Long things' are the baneof my love life...

Dear Diana,
I've got a small one and my girlfriend of four years keeps complaining. Girth-wise, she has no complaints. What I lack in size, I make up in stamina. We're at it for hours. She says I'm not like her ex. I wouldn't want to be. The guy had a long one (have to take her word for it) but came in seconds (pun intended). But my woman isn't

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satisfied and threatens to leave me if a better 'thing' comes her way. I know she's only kidding for now. But what if... after all, kal kissne dekha?

Chotu

Dear Chotu,
Like a good friend of mine used to say, "It's not the size that matters but how well you use it". And it appears you use yours quite well. You're working on your strengths and aren't cribbing about your weaknesses. That's the spirit! She's doing the comparing so she's the one being miserable. You're happy in the moment and that is what matters, really. Get miserable over something you cannot control and it will consume you and eat at you.

My wife disturbs me when I study...

Dear Diana,
I am married and a T Y B Com student. Now my past study record is very good but now, with my wife at home, she disturbs me when I am supposed to study. As a result, I am unable to concentrate on my studies. How do I manage time between my wife and my studies?

Pyarelal Gupta

Dear Pyarelal,
Either get your wife out of the house (ask her to go watch a movie, go shopping etc) when you want to study, or study in a public library where no-one will disturb you. There are several ways to get the peace and quiet you desire without breaking your head over it. Give her the time of day, but spare time for your studies. It is your final year of graduation and will dictate what career choices you make.

Colleagues take my friendliness the wrong way

Dear Diana,
I am already struggling in my personal life and my professional life is also not that good. I work as a front office executive and my colleagues (men) have actually made my life miserable. They spread rumours that I am not a good-natured girl and they have typically used the word 'phaltoo'. I have always been a broad-minded girl and use to speak to my colleagues in a friendly manner. I guess they've taken it the other way. I am depressed and don't feel like working here anymore but I cannot leave because I am desperately in need of job. Help me find a way out

XYZ

Dear Friend,
You can only take insults up to a point. After that, you reach the end of your tether and lash out. Don't ever anyone insult you to your face and get away with it. Insult them right back. Friendliness can only be misconstrued as something else if your body language conveys it. If you had no such intentions, you have nothing to worry about. Give up the job but not before you start looking for something else. Of course, different problems are going to plague you in any organisation, you have to learn not to run away from them and face them, head-on. Speak to a supervisor/ mentor and discuss your problems.