It was supposed to be a no-strings-attached deal!

My nephew invited me over recently and told me about his problem (he has piles and hernia).

It was supposed to be a no-strings-attached deal!

Dear Diana,
My nephew invited me over recently and told me about his problem (he has piles and hernia). About how he hasn't been able to satisfy his wife sexually for over two years now because his condition ensures that he doesn't have the stamina for the act. They have a son though. Now, my nephew wanted me to sleep with his wife saying that he'd rather trust her with someone he knows than have her seek sexual pleasure elsewhere.

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Moreover, she has the hots for me and keeps complimenting my physique which is still quite good for my age (I'm 55). A month or so has passed since his wife and I began having sex. It's all good except that she's gotten serious about it all and keeps talking about leaving my nephew and marrying me. I've been married and widowed (my wife died two years ago) and have absolutely no inclination to remarry. How do I make her see sense?

Ramkumar

Dear Ramkumar,
Your nephew reached out to you in desperation and because he wants to see his wife happy. Most often, wives find happiness in what their husbands want. Considering he was considerate of her wants, he was being shrewd when picking you because he assumed that his wife might not have an attachment or attraction to you purely because you're so much older than she is. He never expected things to reach a point where she'd rather divorce him (in the state that he is) to be with you. Of course, as you've mentioned, you want the pleasure but not the responsibilities that could come with it. Tell her that you are not interested in a marriage at all and that it would be a no-strings, purely sexually motivated affair

Will masturbation affect my sex life?

Dear Diana,
I am 32 years old and am unmarried. I masturbate thrice a week and reach orgasm in five minutes. I am getting married in three months. Will this affect my sex life? Will I be able to satisfy my wife?

Mandar

Dear Mandar,
One, masturbating won't affect your sex life. Not if you don't obsess over it rather than the actual act, anyway. In the very most, it will help you last longer. The shorter you last, the lesser the chances of your partner being satisfied.

My pimples are a bother...

Dear Diana,
I am 20, tall, fair, have a good physique but have a problem with my face. I have a lot of small pores because of pimples. My girlfriend, my friends and I are all finding this a bother. What should I do?

Puttu

Dear Friend,
Visit a good dermatologist as soon as you skin. Regarding an outbreak of skin rash on your face, you have to be specific. Are they blackheads or are they freckles. Or simply acne? I can understand this condition bothering you. But how do you expect me to believe that it is bothering your friends, too? If it really did affect them that much, they'd do something to help you.