Mom eats up most of my salary, makes life hell

Dear Diana,

I am 24, live at home and my mom is making my life hell! I hate the fact that she is always picking on me for something even if it has nothing to do with me. She gets 3/4th of my salary and yet wants me to give an account of every rupee I spend.

She has never liked any of my boyfriends and always has something negative to say about them. I really want to move out but I feel as though I'm being held back.

She works too but I'm the one who pays the rent so if I was to leave, she would lose the roof over her head. I've got no self confidence and I let everyone treat me like a doormat. I feel like I don't have a voice. I'm not allowed to answer back or even go in a bad mood at home.

Name withheld



Dear Friend,

You cannot live like a timid mouse always and let everyone walk all over you .People will not respect you. You're a grown woman. You choose who you want to date how you want to spend your money. If your mother persists in knocking down your boundaries, consider seeking family therapy.

The relationship may improve in more ways than one. You cannot change your mother or the way she behaves but you can definitely learn how to deal with it. People treat you as you let them, why work just to hand most of your salary over to your mother and to top it all. I would definitely try to get out of there fast before she hurts you more. When your mother begins caring about you, then that's the time you begin caring about her.

No-one's attracted to me!

Dear Diana,

I am a boy. I have no friends I can speak to about falling in love. What changes can I affect in myself so as to attract girls and have at least one girlfriend. I am a loser. I have nothing going for me. I wonder why God made me?

Vicky

Dear Vicky,

Stop thinking on those lines. However lonely you are, it's usually because you let bery few people in. Girls who do like you for you are will tell you this: first impressions matter. If you see yourself as a loser, they will see it reflected in your personality. You will remain a loser only as long as you want to. Winners never give up.