24 January,2009 07:29 AM IST | | Dear Diana
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Dear Diana,
I am a 22-year-old having an affair with a 29-year-old. This girl knows me for five years now. She has had an affair before I came into the picture. Then she said that she liked me and made me propose to her. I proposed for love and not marriage.
I clarified in the very beginning that I wasn't interested in marrying her and she agreed at the time. Now she's forcing me to marry her or she says she'll lodge a police complaint. Except for a kiss, we haven't got physical at all. Should I continue the relationship or break up with her. Also, is it legally possible that she can file a case against me?
XYZ
Dear Friend,
Con her into revealing her strategy. What ruse will she use against you? What can she say against you that can incriminate you? If there's nothing, call her bluff. You set the rules of the game quite early... much like a pre-nup. You played it safe.
But she outplayed you. The only way I see you getting out with your dignity intact is if you approach a lawyer to figure out if there are any 'baseless' allegations that can be brought against you and if ther are ways to get around it. You know you're innocent, ergo, the truth should set you and keep you free.
I want her to be my girlfriend...
Dear Diana,
I am 17 and she's 16...I think. We met in college during admissions: I was there to apply, she was there to cancel her admission. I needed a supplement paper for my application and borrowed the paper from her.
She has given me the supplement paper and fortunately, her residential address was on it. Later on, we became friends. I want to be her to be my girlfriend. Should I approach her at college or in her home? I don't know what to do.
Name withheld on request
Dear Friend,
Err... don't you think you're getting to be a bit of a stalker now? In any case, if you are friends and want to be together, all you need to do is ask her how she feels about you just a friend or more than a friend? Then propose to her and tell her that she 'completes you' or something romantic for that matter.
It really doesn't matte where you approach her as long as you put her at ease while talking to herabout it. Make sure you don't pressure her for an answer. Make your move after she replies.
Does she really love me?
Dear Diana,
I am an 18-year-old. I recently had a serious break-up. I'm totally heart-broken at the moment. I can't get over her. Probably the only way I can, is if I find love again.
There's a girl in my college who I used to like earlier but we didn't know each other. Now, after my break-up, she's actually acknowledging me. I don't know if she likes me or is playing me. Whenever I pass her by, her friends tease her and stuff. Is she playing with my emotions or does she really love me?
Confused
Dear Friend,
I think it's too soon. You're hoping this relationship will work out because you want a relationship on the rebound. If you propose and she does say yes, I think you'd be doing her grave injustice by backing out later on.
In any case, if she is interested in you, you should be the one to make the first move, introduce yourself and get the ball rolling. Ask her out and figure out what she feels for you. Love, really, is a long, long way off. Get started, first. She knows you exist, now let her know who you are.
