Told him about loose cable. He says it's just a fable!

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Dear Diana,
My husband will believe anything his mother says, no matter what it is. He is highly egoistic and always likes to find fault with me. His mom just denies everything and he believes her. A small incident: Last week, she told her grandson (his brother's son) to loosen the cable wire simply because I'd be watching my favourite weekend serials. This happened when I was at the neighbour's place. Upon my return, I saw a message on the TV that said 'the set box is not connected'. Since it was the first time I saw the message, I sensed something fishy. I switched the TV on and off , but nothing happened. After half an hour, the TV worked just fine. I saw the grandson watching a game and asked him if he blocked something. He said no and insisted there may have been no signal at the time. I asked him how he got the TV work again. He had no answer. Early next morning, I tried loosening the wire and the same message came up. I told my hubby but he doesn't believe me. He says I am making up stories without proof and am simply accusing his nephew. I even called the cable guy to find out why I got the message. he said it was because the cable wire was loose. Should I just let it go? I know they did it. This is a not a issue but since she always tries to influence my husband, this is my opportunity to nail them. What should I do with him?

ABC

Dear Friend,
The matter you're raking up is a very trivial one. It just as well might have been that there was no signal when you checked. If you didn't see the cable disconnected then, you might have no case at all. Besides, this is no big opportunity. You will end up looking petty and opportunistic (exactly like the mother-in-law you so despise). The point of the whole explanation is, your husband anyway won't believe you (even if it is the truth), so what's the point of this whole exercise, really? Besides, accusing your nephew without sufficient proof will alienate you from the rest of the family as well.

Daddy's playing kabab mein haddi!

Dear Diana,
I am a 23-year-old. I recently I am in love with guy, a software engineer from a good family background and is well settled. We are from different castes. His parents have accepted me as their daughter-in-law and are willing to see us married. But my parents are against it as he's from a scheduled caste and we're not. My dad has threatened to cut me off from the family and disown me if I marry the guy. My mom supports me because my elder sister's marriage (an arranged one) was not a success. She and her child are staying with us. We're a joint family so dad's also afraid of loose tongues. I want to marry this guy but how do I convince my dad? I don't want hurt him.

Suhaan

Dear Suhaan,
Papa really has laid down the law, in this case. There's no turning back for him. And as it seems, for you either. You really have to be gutsy and decide what way you're going to veer. Your guy seems like a decent bloke and despite this caste rubbish, sounds like a good catch. All that should matter, is that he can provide for you, keep you happy and love you always. If he can promise that, any talk of casteism is besides the point. But that said, you will have to get your father to meet this guy in the very least, so he can warm up to him and maybe... just maybe change his mind about your guy and give him a death of a chance.