We met on social network site, but we haven't MET!

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We met on social network site, but we haven't MET!

Dear Diana,

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I really don't know what is happening with me nowadays. I feel very lonely when I don'tu00a0 talk to him. We met on Facebook. As he was my schoolmate, he gave me his number as we became close friends on the website. We use to talk daily. I felt very comfortable talking to him. I am in school and he is in college. yet I feel comfortable with him. He he is five years older. But his lifestyle is quite hi-flying. He has many friends like me. So I am not that important to him. But the day he entered my life, my life became very exciting. He doesn't recognise me as we haven't met each other, but I recognise him. he has also committed to someone else. Why do I feel jealous? Sometimes I feel I don't care. But I do care. I always keep talking about him. Is this purely attraction? We have not even met each other. I have just seen him. so what should I do now to forget him?

Vidhi

Dear Vidhi,
There are some things you have to sort out byu00a0 figuring them out yourself. If he doesn't know you, make him aware that you exist. Make him believe that you're the best thing that could have happened to him. You'll know if it's attraction only after you've 'met'u00a0 him.

She complains about my size

Dear Diana,
I have been a firm believer in the adage: it's not the size of your tool, but how you use it, that matters. But my wife apparently doesn't share my point-of-view. It's not that I don't satisfy her. It's just that she feels I should try to get bigger. I feel she should accept me as I am and not grumble about my size. God made me as I am. Who is she to complain?

Angry Husband

Dear Friend,
You're absolutely right. You haven't given her cause for complaint and as such, she shouldn't belittle you or make you insecure about your own body. Ask her how she would feel if you made fun about the shape of her body. Of course, it's between the two of you, so I she's entitled to voicing her opinion. If you don't like it, you have as much right to tell her that.

They fight all the time!

Dear Diana,
The situation at home is quite bad. My mom fights with my bhabhi all the time and even beats her. My brother is stationed in south India.While my bhabhi is the quiet type and never replies back to my mom, they recently came to blows with my bhabhi giving back as good as she got. I sided with my mom then [she is my mom after all] and separated them. But I don't want to ever be in that situation again. Any solutions?

Stuck In Between

Dear Friend,
The only possible solution as I see it, is if your brother and sis-in-law move out for good. She has put up with torture this long and with nobody supporting her in times of distress she may be pushed to actions that may have far reaching implications for your family. Or if your mom snaps and does something she'll regret all her life.