We're physically attached but I already have a girlfriend...

I am 19, she is 18. I met her at a nightclub two years ago, we had common friends and we even started to get along well.

Dear Diana,

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I am 19, she is 18. I met her at a nightclub two years ago, we had common friends and we even started to get along well. We became good friends and slowly started having late-night chats. We grew emotionally attached to each other. We grew physically attached too, but then I got a girlfriend... her best friend. However, we cannot resist each other and continue to have sex sometimes. I really enjoy the sex, and do not know if I really love my girlfriend. I don't know what to do.

XYZ

Dear Friend,

The relationship with your girlfriend is one of convenience. The problem with you is... you never stopped loving the first girl. Why did you even get into a relationship with her best friend?u00a0 In any case, you have to decide if you wanna be with Girl #1 simply because you love her more than you love your girlfriend or because the sex is much better; or existent for that matter. If it is the latter, I think you're making a mistake and are going to end up ruining three lives by continuing with this. If it is the former, go ahead and dump your girlfriend and be with the one you love. Provided of course that she wants to be with you too. Check that out first.

I can't talk to girls...

Dear Diana,

I am a 17-year-old average teenager living an average life. My problem is I can't talk to a girl. I was a never the socialising type, but this is ridiculous. My friends say I am good-looking and trendy, but when I'm alone I can't talk to girls. I think I'm too self-conscious. Please help! I don't want to die alone or have an arranged marriage either.

Nikhil

Dear Nikhil,

So you get tongue-tied around girlsu00e2u0080u00a6 big deal! There are other ways of communication too, aren't there? Of course, coming across as a shy guy isn't exactly going to stop you from being single forever. If you never try, you're never going to know.u00a0 And besides, if all else fails, how bad could an arranged marriage be. They'll ask for your consent, right? What could you possibly have to lose?

I'm stuck in this marriage

Dear Diana,

I am a 25-year-old newlywed. I'm not happy at all though. He married me under pressure and so doesn't love me. He only loves my family as we have a lot of money and he's a middle-class guy. He never gets physical with me nor does he like talking to me. His mom is mentally ill and keeps screaming at me. I'm stuck in this marriage. My parents won't support me. I feel suicidal. Do you know anyone who can help me?

Depressed Soul

Dear Friend,

There are several women support groups that can come to your aid. But there should first exist, the desire to want change. I'm sure you're educated and given the circumstances, yearning to be independent. Anything would be better than being stuck in a marriage that has no future, right? Although, I'm suspecting your reasons for marrying this guy... He may have been forced into the marriage; what's your excuse? Moreover, I find it quite weird that your parents don't support you, assuming they put you in this situation in the first place.