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Dear Diana,I work with my ex-girlfriend and she isn't handling the break-up well. I have kinda moved on but I still have feelings for her and try to be nice to her. After we broke up she didn't talk to me at all. I felt some of her facebook status messages were for me, and I played that game for a while, then I had enough of her not talking to me, and sou00a0 I removed her as a friend, and she got really mad at that. Since then she has been acting more 'distant', but she still glances and smiles at work. She kept a mug given by me on her work desk, and it was there even after we broke up, then it was gone. A week later, I found itu00a0 in almost plain sight in the bin. I picked it up gave it to her saying, "you dropped something" and she said "Keep it". I told her "no you can, it was a gift" and she put it in her desk. When I talk to other girls at work, she looks really jealous. She said her 'feelings changed' for me and that she wasn't ready for a serious relationship that's why she had to break up. But now it seems like she still has feelings for me.u00a0 I don't know what to do. I just want to leave her alone and not try to get back into her life. But I feel like she wants to tell me something but she's too stubborn. Help.
KedarDear Kedar,Not only is this girl confusing you, she sounds confused whether she wants you in her life or out of it. I think what she really wants is for you to chase around after her, even though she broke it off. She is obviously missing the attention and she is indulging in this mind game that some people play on their exes. She misses the thrill of having you chasing around, so she plays these little immature games. Fact is, she said her feelings changed. Even if she comes back to you and says that she wants to work things out, I would say don't encourage her. Meanwhile, do your best to keep contact to a total minimum in office. Next time she puts up a status message on Facebook, or even 'drops' the mug at your feet, just ignore it. Don't play her games. Move on. You deserve better.
Never been on a date
Dear Diana,I am a teenager. I am single. I have never even been out on a date with a girl. I think that for some reason, no girls seems that attracted to me. I am decent looking, and am always nice to them, being a gentleman what else can I do?
VihaanDear Vihaan,Are you shy around girls? Start by asking a girl to hang out sometime. Most girls want a guy who is confident, stands up for himself, is smart, nice and outgoing and is able to hold a conversation. Also hit a gym few times a week and you will see an improvement in your overall health and confidence.
Has she changed her mind about me?
Dear Diana,Three months ago, I was hung up on this girl. I told her I liked her and she said she liked me too but wasn't interested in hooking up. Later, I got really drunk and sent her a text about how much I liked parts of her body and howu00a0 I was sexually attracted to her. This was very stupid and very embarrassing. She told her friends I was sending her creepy texts. I apologised and backed off. Two days back, she emailed me. I made light of my crush and the way I behaved. She's started casually talking about things like her "hot ass" and how toned she was from working out but not in a funny way. She never talked about these things before. What's the deal?
AbhinavDear Abhinav,People love to be desired, even if they don't desire the person who desires them. Some people just like the attention. You probably gave her a confidence boost when you sent her the email about liking different parts of her body, and to save face, she told her friends it was "creepy" when she could have secretly liked it. This is all just speculation, but if she's had a change of behaviour, she either wants to string you along for a confidence boost (because she knows you like her, or at least used to), OR she has changed her mind and wants you now. talk to her and see how it goes. That is, if you are still interested in her.
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