I'm a teenager... I wanna have a life... geddit?

I'm a teenager... I wanna have a life... geddit?

Dear Diana,
Hi! So... umm... I recently got out of a year-long relationship a serious one way too serious for an 18-year-old, to be honest. It wasn't the best break-up. She was insanely possessive and stuff; lots of complications. I think I'm over her. Can't be sure though... cause she was like, my entire life! So anyway, I've had like... three flings since then. None with the intention of getting over her; opportunities just presented themselves. I'm fine with these, though, my problem is that when my friend asked to set me up with one of her friends, I gave an outright no in response. I just realized I don't want a relationship and all the baggage that comes with it. I'm a teenager. I should be having fun. I'm hoping this is just a phase, but I don't see myself wanting a girlfriend for a long, long time. Any insights?

Name withheld

Dear Friend,
So like... here's what I think. Don't get into a relationship anytime soon. Enjoy your freedom for as long as you can. Have flings with consenting parties for as long as you feel you have to. It does get lonely and an empty feeling does make its presence felt in due course, so you oughta have a long-term plan rather than go with the flow then as well.u00a0 Going with the flow might work for a while, then you will have to plan it all.

Is it okay to have alcohol, Viagra and then, sex?

Dear Diana,
I want to know if there are any side-effects to having alcohol after consuming Viagra, while having a physical relationship.

XYZ

Dear Friend,
There are side effects to using Viagra and there are side effects to using alcohol. Both are quite unpleasant. Consuming alcohol moreover will ensure you don't have an erection long enough, even if you've had Viagra before that. So the sex may not be so memorable, after all!

He wants me to make him jealous

Dear Diana,
Mine was a love marriage & my husband was extremely possessive about me and I really liked it. Now, he has completely stopped being possessive. I asked him why. He said the spark had gone out of our marriage and that I needed to do something to make him jealous (ie: get over-friendly with some guys or join some salsa class or do any thing that would get me to touch other guys) wherein after seeing this, my hubby would get jealous and this would re-spark our love life. I love my guy and can't even think of doing what he wants me to do.

XYZ

Dear Friend,
Roleplay seems to your husband's latest fantasy. But it would also test how far he's go with it. Is jealousy all there is to it? Is it enough to re-ignite the spark that your marriage lost. Why and where did it go in the first place? You love him and couldn't dream of doing it to him, so don't. And stop cribbing about him not doing enough in terms of being possessive about you. He's being naive about it all and I don't see him wanting to change a thing, so you might have to, if you want what you're seeking.