'As women grow older, their sexual desire reduces...'

May 12, 2014, 15:22 IST | Dr Prakash Kothari and Rachna Kothari

Clinical sexologist Dr Prakash Kothari and Counseling Psychologist Rachna Kothari answer your sex-related queries

Q. As women grow older, their sexual desire reduces. But men’s drive is forever active. Why is that?
A. Even for a woman, if she wishes to continue, she can perform till the last day of her life. Indeed there is a slight difference - in case of men, along with the age, the male hormone (testosterone) decline is gradual and not sudden. In case of women, there is a comparatively sudden stoppage of the female hormone (estrogen), which marks the menopause and also overall feminity. That is why after menopause, there is dryness in vagina. This leads to pain at the time of penetration. Because of this pain factor most women try to remain away from sexual intercourse despite their desire component being intact. The male hormone testosterone is also partly responsible for the sexual desire and arousal in women also. There is no expiry date for sex in both, men and women.

Q. I am 25 years old. Whenever I masturbate I get highly constipated for next 2-3 days and become normal after that. With constipation I tend to eat less and the area under eyes turns black. If I don’t masturbate I don’t have constipation problem. I am getting married soon and I think this is going to be problematic. Please help me out.
A. There could be a medical basis for your problem. The nerve supply to genitals and to the anal region is the same; i.e. Sacral nerve 2 & 3. Hence some men may report this type of concern. This as such does not have any direct correlation with the dark circles around the eyes but because of this a person may become anxious which may lead to insomnia and leading to the resultant reversible dark circles around the eyes. Try reducing foods that cause constipation, i.e. breads, pizzas, pastas, fried foods, fruits like apples, raw bananas, and pomegranate. You may consume high fiber diet, consume more water and take non-habit forming herbal laxative for constipation.

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