'She doesn't like me because I'm 3 years younger'

Jun 26, 2017, 06:00 IST | Dr Love

I really love a girl, but she doesn't feel the same way about me because I am three years younger...

Illustration/Uday Mohite
Illustration/Uday Mohite

I really love a girl, but she doesn't feel the same way about me because I am three years younger.
What can I do?
- Aakash J
There's nothing you can do. You can't force someone into feeling something for you, irrespective of your age differences. You can always spend some time with her as a friend, if possible, and get her to look at you differently, but if she's not interested, you simply have to move on. A relationship involves two people, after all.

I am a 26-year-old woman.
I ended a three-year relationship last year because my boyfriend was unfaithful. We have been in touch since, but haven't met since we broke up. He is now apologising to me and begging me to take him back. Will this relationship work again? Is he up to something? Does he want to hurt me more? I'm confused.
- Janis J
You broke up with him for a serious reason and have managed without him just fine for a year. If you want him back, that decision is yours alone, and should be based simply upon whether or not you value his presence in your life again. As for him trying to hurt you, that is something only time can tell. If you have waited for a year without him, why not wait some more, until you are sure about him?

I don't know what's going on with my boyfriend. He is not at all serious about anything I say to him. He doesn't take me seriously, and only tells me that he loves me when he's drunk. What do I do about this?
- JL
If he can't be open about his feelings for you when he's sober, there's no way of evaluating his sincerity under the influence of alcohol. Maybe he can't open up when he's sober, which is also a problem. If he doesn't take what you say seriously, why are you demeaning yourself by giving him so much importance?

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