He acts like he is doing me a favour
This has affected my self-esteem and I am now questioning whether this relationship will last because I can't imagine being married to someone like this
My boyfriend and I were together for two years before he asked me to move in with him. I agreed because I thought I knew him well but since that happened, he spends all his time making me feel as if he is doing me a favour. This has affected my self-esteem and I am now questioning whether this relationship will last because I can't imagine being married to someone like this. At the same time, I feel grateful that he asked me to move in with him because it gives me some feeling of security. I am very confused because I can't make up my mind about what decision will be right for me in the long run. Please help.
Stockholm syndrome refers to alliances formed between hostages and their captors during captivity. It is too strong an analogy for what you are going through, but I mention it anyway because I believe it makes sense for you to try and step away from your situation to evaluate it more objectively. If your boyfriend has changed, and believes your self-esteem doesn't matter, it is a sign of disrespect that doesn't fit in with the notion of an equal partnership. There are no favours in a relationship because partners prop each other up. Speak to family and friends if possible, try and get another opinion, and do what works for you first, not your relationship.
I am a 29-year old woman and have been in a relationship with a 31-year old guy who says he is very serious about me. The problem is, he still lives with his mother who is a widow. He says he will never live apart from her, which bothers me because it will mean never having a life of our own together with just the two of us. Does this mean I should forget about him?
That depends entirely upon how badly you want him in your life, and how much you are prepared to compromise to make that future with him work.
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