'I feel so lonely and sad...'

Apr 17, 2014, 06:17 IST | Dear Diana

I'm 20 and currently studying in the commerce stream. I'm decent at studies and don't have a boyfriend

Dear Diana,
I'm 20 and currently studying in the commerce stream. I'm decent at studies and don't have a boyfriend. I have two close friends, one from my school days and one from my college. I'm generally a cheerful (yet quiet) person but of late, I'm feeling left out and terribly sad. I want to know why I feel alone even if I am surrounded by my family members. It's like nobody understands me and I don't know who to turn to. My parents are working and lead a busy life.
— Alya

Dear Diana 

Dear Alya,
Life is what you make it out to be. Why wallow in self-pity? You have two close pals, so hang out with them. Apart from studies, indulge in some extra-curricular activity or perhaps a sport. Keep yourself busy so that you do not spend time thinking why you feel so alone. Try to be happy with whatever you have, remember there are people out there worse off, so stop thinking that you are the only one who is sad and lonely. Be of a cheerful disposition, read, watch TV, listen to music and engage in conversation with others. Take control of your life and banish any such thoughts which will make you feel sad and lonely.

Dear Diana,
Before marriage, I had a boyfriend whom I promised marriage. Later however, my family forced me to marry a guy of their choice. As of today, I feel guilty for breaking my boyfriend's heart. I have not told my hubby anything about my past as my affair was a secret. The guilt, however, haunts me. I have been married for over a year.
— Nafeesa

Dear Nafeesa,
You decided to abide with the family's wishes and break off from your guy. If you really cared, you would have told your folks about him. You took a decision and now you need to abide by it. There is no point thinking about your ex and looking back now as it will mess up your married life.

Diana will solve it!
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