'I want to have a sex change operation'
Clinical sexologist Dr Prakash Kothari and Counseling Psychologist Rachna Kothari answer your sex-related queries
Q. I am 22 years old girl and I am very close to my friend. I am so close that I can't live without her. As a solution I wish to change my sex and live together. Tell me where such sex change operations are done. What is the cost of it?— Sex change
Please remember “to change” should be the act of instinct (within) and not the one of external reasons. Before the sex change surgery operation, an individual needs to consult “two” psychiatrists separately about the genuineness of the case. Sometimes, personality disorders may lead to alternative (same sex) behaviour which needs to be ruled out prior to surgery. A competent plastic surgeon who is trained in treating such cases would be the best person for surgery. These surgeries are done in phases in big hospitals. The cost of such operations would be around Rs 10 lakh. However, a word of Caution: Results of female-to-male sex change operations are comparatively less encouraging than male-to-female.
Q. My husband insists on going to a Hakim to have his regular dose of sex tonics to maintain his potency. As such today, he does not have any sexual problem. Should he take such tonics or, can you recommend any safe, cost-effective and easily available alternative that works?
— Tonic problem
Sexual potency is inseparable from the total vitality of the whole body. Hence, what is good for the whole body is good for sex. One teaspoon full of cow’s ghee can have a fantastic tonic effect on health in general and sex in particular. Ayurveda terms cow’s ghee as “Rasayan”, which means the substance which delays the process of growing old, maintains youth and keeps the body disease-free. Cow’s ghee also helps in tranquility of the mind, aids physical strength. It reduces acidity and relieves constipation. The well known ayurvedic authority Maharishi Charak emphatically advocates cow’s and not buffalo’s ghee by skillfully arguing that the strength which the ox has got, male buffalo doesn’t have!
Note: Cow’s ghee does not increase cholesterol