'I'm a guy, but like to wear women's clothes...'

Aug 15, 2014, 06:06 IST | Dear Diana

I am a 19-year-old guy, but love to dress up in female clothes and use cosmetics

Dear Diana,
I am a 19-year-old guy, but love to dress up in female clothes and use cosmetics. It's starting to become a bit of a strain keeping such an important aspect of myself a secret. At the same time, I'm worried what if my loved ones don't accept me for the way I am? I really want to come out of the closet, but I am so nervous and scared.
— Dilawar

Illustration/Amit Bandre
Illustration/Amit Bandre 

Dear Dilawar,
It is strange that all these years you have managed to keep it a well-kept secret. You say no one has a clue about your fetish. There are quite a few men who like to wear women's stuff, not because they are gay or want to be a woman, but it is sometimes a sexual turn on for them. Or perhaps you are a cross dresser. People will judge you for how you behave. If you are clear about your sexual leanings, it is time you come out in the open. It is better that you tell your loved ones, rather than they find it out from others which will cause them more misery.

Dear Diana,
I'm 29 and my best friend is worrying me sick. She's becoming close to my ex despite knowing about our bitter break up. I am trying to be reasonable, but I'm just not cool with the situation. There was a time she asked me not to keep in touch with her ex, which I followed. And now, she's going around with my ex. I know she loves me, but this is quite difficult to understand.
— Veera

Dear Veera
The friendship matters more to you than her. If she valued you, she would not have gone around with your ex. If she has told you not to be in touch with her former flame, she has no business doing the same with yours. She should practise what she preaches. You need to tell her how you feel and how important friendship and loyalty is to you. If she does not make amends, she is not worthy of your love and trust.

Diana will solve it!
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