'We were better off in a long-distance relationship'
Dear Diana, I had been in a long- distance relationship for the past two years. Recently, I moved back to Mumbai from Delhi.
I thought we will finally be able to spend time together. But I get to meet my girlfriend only on Sundays which is our day off from work. Often, she has to go out with her family. I know she loves me but it appears that we were better off in different cities.
Couples in a long-distance relationship are considered to have stronger bonds and deeper communications. There are as many advantages of not living together than of living together. In your case, there is a time crunch. With both spending long hours at work, it is impossible to be togetheras often as you would like. When you were in Delhi and she in Mumbai, you could keep in touch via the phone. Now you want to be physically present with her and that is proving to be a problem. This is causing stress and frustration at your end. Find a way out that you can at least spend a few hours together over the weekend. Also, plan shopping trips or meals together to spend more time together.
Diana will solve it!
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